Dealing with a Woman Who Says No
When dating women, you’ll eventually run into resistance when it comes to getting physical with them. Mind you – this doesn’t happen with every woman, but it happens enough that you need to be aware of it.
When resistance occurs, most guys take it as a form of rejection and give up! They won’t even put up a fight, they’ll just go along with the resistance and let it win.
What they don’t know is that resistance can be overcome – and you can do it without being a jerk or forcing the girl to do something she doesn’t want to do.
Typically, there are 2 causes of this type of resistance.
The first cause is LOGICAL. This is typically the easiest type of resistance to overcome. Logical resistance is where women think up objections to the two of you getting together. These objections sometimes include:
1. Are we moving too fast? I don’t want him to think I’m easy.
2. I don’t want to get pregnant or catch a disease.
3. What will my friends think if I hook up with this guy?
4. How do I know he’s not just trying to use me?
5. I really like this guy and I don’t want to screw it up by sleeping with him too soon.
And on, and on, and on.
The second cause is EMOTIONAL. This resistance stems from feelings that suddenly flare up. She might feel afraid, or insecure, or nervous, and give into these feelings, and come up with some type of excuse to do so.
Obviously, guys have a hard time with the emotional objections because they are usually oblivious to what the girl is feeling to begin with!
So What’s the answer here? How do we deal with this resistance?
Well, the reason we’re getting resistance is because we haven’t done our job properly. At some point, we started to move too fast, and set off warning bells with the girl.
All resistance, whether it be logical or emotional, stems from a lack of 2 critical things:
When a woman trusts you and is completely comfortable with you, you will never experience any resistance from her. EVER. It is only when these things are lacking that resistance rears it’s ugly head.
So in order to prevent resistance from occurring, you really have to focus on getting the girl you’re with to trust you and feel comfortable with you.
When you do meet with resistance, it’s important to work on developing more trust and comfort with the girl.
So how does one create trust and comfort?
Well, the two go hand in hand. If you can create one, the other will follow. The first way you can do this is to be relaxed and have fun when you’re with the girl. Cracking jokes, laughing, and having a good time will relax her and make her feel comfortable around you.
Refrain from judging her and other people too harshly. Lack of trust and comfort usually stems from being judged and criticized. You need to let her know that she can make mistakes around you, and you won’t punish her for them.
Make her feel safe. Let her know you’re there for her when she needs you, and that you care for her. This goes a long way towards building trust and comfort.
And should she offer resistance to you, don’t get angry or upset! Instead, acknowledge it, agree with it, and talk about it. Allow her to voice what’s scaring her and help her work through it.
Eventually, she’ll trust you enough and feel comfortable enough to let that resistence fade.
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